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December292008

The Beautiful Simplicity That Is Sometimes SavageLove

This is probably my favorite advice from SavageLove. I seem to bring it into conversation relatively often.

sexartandpolitics:misfittoys:

I’m a female college student and a feminist. I expect equal pay, equal treatment, and fairness when it comes to chores at home. But I have fantasies of domestic discipline. Some days I’d like to rush home and clean the apartment and make dinner for my boyfriend wearing only an apron. Then I’d appreciate it if he’d find some excuse, something I did wrong, and spank me until I cry before he has wild sex with me.

I’ve got plenty more fantasies where that one came from.

My guy, being open-minded, would be up for this. But how on earth do I set effective boundaries? How can you be taken seriously as an equal when you tell your boyfriend that you’d like him to dominate you outside the bedroom (the cooking-and-cleaning aspect) on occasion? I want this to be a periodic, not a consistent, dynamic. It’s totally unrealistic to pretend to be BETTY CROCKER all the time.

No Clever Acronym

Get a necklace or a bracelet, NCA, that you wear only when you want the boyfriend to take charge. You decide when that bracelet or necklace goes on, you decide when it comes off, which puts you in control, paradoxically, of your own submission.

When you’re wearing it, of course, you’re BETTY CROCKER (whoever she is) and the boyfriend has your consent to order you about, spank your ass, and fuck you senseless. When it’s off, you’re equals. Easy!